It's hard to say no...and so important!
You've got a lot on your plate.
Maybe that's a good place to start. Take a moment now and think about everything you've got on your plate.
Work
Finances
Family
Friends
Commitments to others.
Anything else that comes to mind for you.
Did you notice what or rather "who" was missing?
What about you?
Your wellbeing.
Your physical health.
Your mental health.
Fun and play.
Relaxing every now and then...
When's the last time you gave yourself a pat on the back? Really!
Acknowledgment, for where you're at, what it took for you to get there. The celebration. It's easy to acknowledge, and we often do, the things that we did wrong, and then beat ourselves up or look for improvement. But we often forget to celebrate the good things, and bask in that.
It's not your fault. It's built into your DNA to focus on the negative, rush by the positive and keep going... plugging away. Doing.
Instead of taking a moment to "bask" you're looking for the next thing to achieve, the next thing on your to-do list. The next...the next...the next...and then you realize that you're not satisfied or fulfilled. Ugh.
Saying yes to others and no to you. This may not even be on your radar screen...you do it so automatically.
And then you wonder why you're burnt out!
Just because you can, doesn't mean you should. You're allowed to say no.
Are you ready?
Let's get to it...
Your challenge...
If this is relatable to you, you're not alone. It's time for a reminder about boundaries...one of my favourite topics. Learning to set healthy boundaries has made a huge difference for me... knowing when to say no. Learning to be in service of me and my needs, and it's a tough one.
Because I'm well aware that I'm not alone* in this one, we're gonna go through it again today.
Some reminders about boundaries:
They're not there to keep others out!
They're there to reduce your stress by giving you a sense of control and freedom over how you live and spend your time.
Setting healthy boundaries is said to enhance your mental and emotional well-being.
A benefit everyone could use for sure.
Setting boundaries is good for you AND the people around you.
When you have clear boundaries, others will learn to respect your limits and know what you are and aren't okay with.
What about the people who don't respect your boundaries?
Check in...it's probably because they were benefiting from you not having any.
It takes practice and awareness and a willingness to say yes to you first. Not in a selfish way, in a way that helps you show up as your best in this world.
Struggling with personal boundaries? Maybe it's time to Contact me
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Cheers,
Ann
*Yes AMD…this one’s for you!
It’s hard to say no…and so important!