Can we talk about regret? Possibly the most bitter pill to swallow...
Maybe not the most exciting topic to talk about and probably the one I come up against fairly often in my work. Thankfully it's usually helping people to recognize that if they don't do something, whatever it is, then regret can be a result.
The regret of inaction, the not doing of the thing that's pulling at their heart. They get to realize that they: can apply for that job; start that book; reinvent themselves; work on their dream; or do whatever it is that they're holding back on.
Or it could be things like: having that tough conversation they've been putting off; finally saying no; setting a boundary; standing up for themselves etc.
Let's face it... no one looks back and says "oh I'm so glad I didn't (you can fill in the blank here)" ...nope... that's never what happens. It's the looking back and thinking "Ah shit...I wish I'd done that" or, maybe worse "I should've done that". Those are the words of regret. Woulda...shoulda...coulda... But you didn't.
One thing all of these people tend to have in common is a story they're hanging on to that tells them they can't do something. These stories are often related to long ago things that no longer exist that created self-doubt. This self-doubt that's holding them back contributes to a sense of fear and prevents them from taking that first step into the unknown. Sigh. If this sounds all too familiar...you are not alone!
Don't let this be you! It's not too late...you're not too old, too young, too...
Or maybe for you...you're not enough...you don't deserve it...
none of this is true!
YOU have time. You're reading this now. What is it that you have deep down in your heart that you're yearning to do? What are you holding back on?
Because of our natural tendency to have a negative bias, the voices of self-doubt can be so much louder than the voices of self-confidence.
Do you find yourself looking over at someone else who's doing that thing you want to do, and feel empty?
Is it time to take another look at that thing that keeps coming up?
As you know, I recently published my third book http://tinyurl.com/5n6m7uf6 and the number of conversations I've had since with people who've told me about "their book", the one in their heart or the one that's already written but not "out there" are too numerous to count. The reasons vary but the sentiment is there...they're already regretting not doing it yet.
Maybe it's not a book for you. You know what it is. It's never far from your heart. Whatever you're thinking. By delaying it, what are you gaining?
Is today gonna be that day? The day that you decide that the bitterness of regret down the road creates more fear than actually taking a step? That day.
Are you ready?
Let's get to it...
Your challenge for the next week...
Have you heard of Diana Nyad*? There's a movie out right now called "Nyad" and I found it so powerful that I wanted to share the three things she said once she completed her marathon swim from Cuba to Florida.
Never, ever give up.
Not starting is giving up.
What's one thing you can do now to start the ball rolling?
You're never too old to chase your dreams.
Truth.
Maybe this isn't what's holding you back. Take a moment to find your excuse.
It takes a team!
Are you trying to do it on your own?
Start to hang out with people who've done what you want to do...or are a few steps ahead of you.
What lies between fear and regret? Inaction. So get started...call out your excuses, and find your team!
Is today going to be "that day" for you?
Want to learn more about how a few sessions with me can dramatically increase your confidence? Contact me I guarantee you'll be glad you did!
Warmly,
Ann
My new book/journal "The Confidence Recipe" is now available and I can't wait for you to experience it!! Buy it!! http://tinyurl.com/5n6m7uf6
Why work with me? As a Confidence Coach, I help you to be intentional in all of your interactions. Especially those where there's no "do-over". Contact me Let's get started!
Diana Nyad* https://diananyad.com/
Any regrets? It’s never too late…