You're doing it right!
No matter what “it” may be…
How often, especially when you're learning a new skill...do you look around you to make sure that you're "doing it right"?”
I remember those days...and I still get those little nudges every now and then, usually when I'm new to something and building my competence. I don't know about you, but I still catch myself checking around me to make sure I'm in line with others who may be doing a similar thing to me. Sound familiar? If so, you're in good company !
The thing is...competence automatically breeds confidence. Unfortunately, you may not have enough time before you have to do that thing to be completely confident...as if there's such a thing... Because confidence comes from doing, and if you're not doing because you're waiting...well, you can see how this can create a conundrum!
I received some really useful feedback when I was new at a skill and concerned that I wasn't "getting it right". The person I was working with turned to me and said "don't compare your insides to someone else's outside". Right there in that moment what they essentially were saying to me was...don't think I have it all figured out ...I just look like I do. That didn't land with me for a long time. Eventually, I realized it was true. Most people tend to feel the same way... they get nervous and look at someone who looks as cool as a cucumber and think they've got all figured out. They don't!
Let's talk about you...where are you checking behind you, ahead of you, beside you, looking to see who's doing something like you and checking to make sure you're doing it 'right'?
When you're building competence it's useful to have some sort of template to follow, and, eventually it's going to be time to bust out of that and really create your own flavour, so to speak. Easier said than done because fitting in is so ingrained in our DNA. We're wired for it. Damn.
Think about it... how does innovation happen? The surgeon follows the path initially and then comes up with a new technique that changes the whole face of that procedure. That's innovation. Someone trusting their own way of doing something and putting it out there. Yup, knees are gonna be skinned, that's what happens. And without taking those chances to skin your knees a bit you're going to end up with the same old, same old, and that's not good for you, or anyone else. We need innovators. We need your unique style of doing things!
So this is a friendly reminder that you're on track...you're doing OK and we want to see your way of doing it!
Is it time to create your own recipe of what you bring to the table?
Are you ready?
Let's get to it...
Your challenge for the next week...
Think of somewhere in your life right now that you're holding back from truly showing up. Trust the thing that came up for you. You know it...that brain of yours doesn't give you random shit.
Some things to consider as you ponder that thing that you're holding back on:
Time and experience definitely help you to feel more competent and ultimately...confident. Fact.
How long have you been waiting?
Take a moment to look ahead, even just a year or two.
If you keep on sitting on this thing, how are you going to feel?
The answer to the above question?
Most often, the response is REGRET. Sit in that.
What's really holding you back?
Often the answer to this one, in addition to all of your excuses, is the underlying fear and lack of confidence. Oh boy do I see you!
I want to tell you (and maybe myself too?!) that within you is a storehouse of confidence. Maybe you've lost track of it, but it's there for sure and reconnecting with that confidence is possible. It can be a way of fast tracking your confidence for the thing you're waiting on. For real!
What's stored away that you could reconnect to?
Want to learn more about how a few sessions with me can dramatically increase your confidence? Contact me I guarantee you'll be glad you did!
Warmly,
Ann
You’re doing it right…really!!