Do you know your priorities?

What are your priorities?

Let's build on boundaries...you're learning to say no to something, so you can say yes to something else. Making space rather than double booking yourself with "to dos"...bravo!

Here's the thing...you're still going to have a list of things that you want to have or do over the coming weeks. All of them are going to demand your time and energy. Fact. 

You're going to have to choose which one comes first. Prioritize.

When you're being pulled towards one thing it's naturally going to reduce your capacity for something else. If you want to maintain those healthy boundaries you're going to have to recognize that you only have so much bandwidth.  

So how the heck do you even do this?


Are you ready?

Let's get to it...

Your challenge for the next FEW weeks...


Here are a few tips to work with, customize as you see fit:

• Know your priorities for the rest of this month.
  

  • Put pen to paper or get into that app you use and start writing.

  • Trust the order that things end up on that paper/app. 

• Look at that list you just made and ask yourself:

  • Is this realistic?

  • Trust your gut on this one and edit it accordingly, including deleting items.

• Decisiveness matters.

  • Once you’ve made a decision, stick to it.

  • This is not the time to be oscillating back and forth and overthinking. Again, trust your instincts on this one.

All of this is a practice and everyone takes steps back...no matter how good they are at these skills. When you're faced with a pressure cooker of time to get things done it's easy to revert back to old habits and behaviours. Don't beat yourself up for it!!  Instead? Take the time to notice and course correct, one step at a time. You've got this.

Want to learn more about how a few sessions with me can dramatically increase your confidence, including your ability to prioritize? Contact me  I guarantee you'll be glad you did!

Warmly,

Ann

Do you know your priorities?

Tis the season...for stress and boundaries!

Feeling stressed?

Not surprising at all. Look at your calendar! This is probably one of the most stressful times of the year. Whether you celebrate Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanza or nothing at all…the end of the year can create a tremendous amount of pressure. Layer on top of that the completion of end of year goals for 2023 and setting new goals for 2024...whew!! That's a lot.

Remember "Goldilocks"? She knew when the porridge, the bed, and the chair were just right. Not too hot, too soft, not too...you get the picture…

Stress can be like that: Too much and your circuits can get overwhelmed; too little and you have no oomph to get things done.  What do you need? Just the right amount to give you the energy to show up as your best self, no matter what this busy time of year throws at you.

It's possible. 

There's definitely something about a little bit of healthy stress - that boost of adrenalin - that can make you feel motivated and energetic and ready to get  things done.

AND... you still need to have some healthy boundaries in place or the stress can take over.

Boundary setting is a skill...  and just like any other skill, it takes practice and being willing to flub it up at first. 

Setting boundaries can be particularly tough if people pleasing and seeking approval are at the top of your list. Maybe for you it's a sense of obligation? Something you were told you had to do by your culture, or your gender perhaps. If you're one of those people who has a difficult time setting boundaries, go easy on yourself, this isn't something you're doing by choice... more likely by habit. Habits that were set up a very long time ago.

You've been socialized to please others and seek approval, NOT to set healthy boundaries.  Those habits were definitely useful to you at some point in your life. That was then. This is now. 

What habits do you have that are getting in the way of setting some healthy boundaries?

Over time, these habits may become a detriment to you and your well-being. Is it time to set some boundaries?

Some clues it may be time to set a boundary:

• You're more concerned about how someone else is going to feel than your own feelings.

• You start to feel resentful and maybe even angry.

• You've lost track of your own priorities or you've just let them go.

How do you put in place some healthy boundaries to ensure that your circuits aren't getting overloaded? 

Are you ready?

Let's get to it...

Your challenge for the next FEW weeks...

Here are some suggestions for managing your energy and setting some boundaries over the next few weeks

• Don't make someone or something else a priority over your own needs and selfcare.

  • Instead...make a list of things that are non-negotiable for you and then prioritize these first. 

  • A friendly reminder that, NO is a complete sentence.  

• Time:

  • Ask yourself : Do I have the time to do this thing?

  • Time is finite. We only get so much of it. If you're taking on something "extra", maybe ask yourself: What do I need to let go of in order to do this? 

• Energy:

  • This can be a tiring time of year. Extra requests are being made of you on top of your already busy schedule. In addition to time, your energy can take a hit. When you get asked to do that thing, ask yourself: Is this what I really want to spend my energy on?

Here's some food for thought if you're new at this boundary setting skill:

• When you start to set boundaries expect some pushback.

  • This won't come from those who support and respect you,..

  • it's going to come from those who benefited from your lack of boundaries.

• Be prepared for a whole different set of feelings.

  • For example, feelings of guilt and fear are a normal part of the process.

  • If you're not used to setting boundaries, this often comes up.

When you decide to put a line in the sand remember, it can feel a bit risky if it's something you've never done before. The thing about risk is, avoiding it means no risk andif you don't take a risk, nothing's going to change. 

Remember this:

“The only people who’ll be upset by your boundaries, are those who benefited from you having none.” - Unknown 

Mic drop.


Want to learn more about how a few sessions with me can dramatically increase your confidence, including your ability to set boundaries? Contact me  I guarantee you'll be glad you did!

Warmly,

Ann

Why work with me?  As a Confidence Coach, I help you to be intentional in all of your interactions. Especially those where there's no "do-over".  Contact me  Let's get started!

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Tis the season…for stress and boundaries!

Whoa! Slow down!

Whoa! Slow down!

Are you flying by the seat of your pants, rushing from one thing to another? I get it...we all do that from time to time, rushing to get to the end so you can move on to the next thing...and in some situations, it's perfectly fine. Where it's not fine? In those onetime high-stake situations where there's no do-over and your outcome matters significantly.

When you're a high achiever you tend to have your eye on the next thing and the idea of slowing down can be difficult to sit with. It's always 'on to the next thing'... that's cool...until you're finding that you're not getting any traction on that next thing, that's when slowing down makes sense.

Think of it like a car spinning its wheels on an ice patch...hitting the gas doesn't help. What does? Backing up a little, looking at the situation, deciding where you want to go and then slowly putting your foot back on the gas pedal. Knowing where you want to get to...being clear. 

It sounds counter intuitive and it's true...to gain momentum, sometimes you have to slow down and get really clear first and then go and execute.

Clear on what?

The endgame. Your outcome. Your intention. The obvious but sometimes forgotten critical step.

Being crystal clear on what you want, being specific. 

Why does it matter?

• The more specific you are about your desired outcome, the easier it is to prepare for it and the more likely you are to be successful in getting it. Especially when you're in a situation where others want to get something too.

There are things you can do to prepare, to get clear and confident and more likely to get what you want.

Why does this matter?

When you're prepared for situations and you know what you want…you're able to respond rather than react, you can anticipate potential blips and be equipped with a calm confidence rather than scramble and lose your end goal.

It's a practice. So...let's practice!


Are you ready?

Let's get to it...

Your challenge...


Pick an upcoming situation where being more confident will be useful. 

Ask yourself:

• What do I want to get out of this situation?

  • If you don't know, take some time now to really think about it.

• Once you've decided what you're outcome is...

  • Prepare! 

Here are a couple of tips to consider for your preparation.

Think of that goal you want or a bite sized part of it.  Then take five minutes and imagine the following:

• Picture yourself already achieving the goal you want. Where are you? Who's there?

• Imagine how you behaved, what did you do that helped you achieve that goal.

• Think of a skill or capability you have that was instrumental in achieving this goal.

• What did you believe about yourself and your identity that made this achievement possible?

You can think through this and visualize or if you prefer, you can journal the answers.  Notice what feels different about your goal when you do this exercise.

Remember...the person who shows up with a clear outcome and prepares for it is far more likely to get it.

Want to learn more about how a few sessions with me can dramatically increase your confidence? Contact me  I guarantee you'll be glad you did!

Warmly,

Ann

Whoa…slow down!!

In case you're wondering...

In case you're wondering… you're right on track...

It's hard to trust that everything is unfolding as it should when things in the moment might be a bit crappy. The challenges and obstacles that are in your way right now...what if those challenges and obstacles were actually building blocks?  The things you need to get to your destination?

It may feel crappy now but when you're looking in the rear view mirror those moments become your triumphs...the  moments where the spark is being ignited...the skill being built...the small steps being taken despite the challenges and obstacles.

As we approach the middle of this month and the end of the year, this is your friendly reminder to check in and to remind you of your tenacity, your persistence and how being consistent with your practices is what matters when you're building any skill.

I'm here to remind you that you're probably far more capable, competent and skillful than you give yourself credit for. 

It's really easy to get caught up in looking forward all of the time, at where you're heading and where you want to learn and grow...at what you still have to accomplish in order to...

What happens when you continually look forward and see all the challenges ahead? You can forget to recognize all those wonderful skills and capabilities that you have that you take for granted because now they come "naturally" to you. The things that you've grown through time that are now done with unconscious competence. Those things. Because when you get to a certain level of capability it's super easy to forget the sometimes painful experiences that led to getting to where you are now. The self-doubt, the lack of belief in your capabilities, all of those elements that a beginner can feel.

Now look where you are!

This is my intention today: to have you stop and explore something that you're doing right now that you don't give a second thought to. Something that long ago you were struggling with and now you do with your eyes closed.  I'm guessing that something comes to mind for you?  Yes, that thing.

Let's explore that.

Are you ready?

Let's get to it...

Your challenge...

Think of that thing that came up for you, the thing that you now do without thinking. Just trust what comes to mind for you.

• Go back to when you made the decision to do that thing.

  • What drove your decision to start?

• Remember the very first step you took.

  • How small or big was the first step?

• Trace the steps you took along the way to mastery.

  • Notice that the path probably wasn't linear.

• What obstacles do you recall?

  • How would you describe them now?

You're a master at that thing now! You can do it in your sleep.

It's easy to lose track and take that skill or capability for granted because it's become "something that you do". Remember that it wasn't always this way.

Building any new skill takes time, practice and patience. Stay the course...you've got this.  You're right on track...

Want to learn more about how a few sessions with me can dramatically increase your confidence? Contact me  I guarantee you'll be glad you did!

Warmly,

Ann

In case you’re wondering…you’re right on track…

Who are they anyway?

Who are "they"?

The "they"...referenced in your head, sometimes they're specific people and often it's a generalization.  Them. The 'they' that live in your head that truly only exist there. 

How often does what 'they" say or think get in the way of your confidence or the ability to show up as 100% you? More often then maybe you'd like to admit.  That's okay, you're normal and human. Caring what 'they' may think was a survival instinct in the long ago times. Maybe it wasn't described like that and certainly, staying within the boundaries of your tribe was the safe thing to do. The thing that literally kept you alive. 

You're not in those times now but the tribal pull can be so strong. 

What would they do? What would they think?  Exhausting and, again, not really helpful for you and your confidence.

The more you grow your confidence, the more you're going to recognize how little 'they' actually matter.

And possibly more importantly, how little 'they' actually give a rat's ass about what you're doing. Truth. They're consumed with their own things, their own 'they team'.  Maybe they hide it better than you do but it's probably there somewhere deep down.

So how do you get to the point where 'they' start to diminish in importance?

It's a process, a never ending process.  You're not alone and the pain points that are keeping you from confidently showing up are pretty universal. 

Ready to address some of them?


Are you ready?

Let's get to it...

Your challenge...


Pick a situation you're in right now where the pull to please "them" is putting the brakes on something you want to be, have or confidently do.

Let's identify and put to rest some of the most common things or ideas that can get in your way...

• Self doubt...
  

  • This one's popular for sure. You're ready to do something and then you doubt your readiness because you aren't prepared enough or you're not as experienced as someone else.

  • Don't let you be your own biggest naysayer!

•  Fear...
  

  • Don't you wish you could abolish this one?!  The feelings are so real and yet they will step aside the minute you decide to take a step...despite what 'they' may think!

• Comparison,..
  

  • Definitely the thief of joy.

  • When you compare yourself to someone else it's often you comparing what they have to what you don’t have, when in fact, your super power is not that! You're not supposed to have what they have! You're supposed to be shining your brightness around.

Damn "they"!  When the lights go down and the curtain comes up, it's all about you on the stage, and what you offer. Not you trying to be a second rate version of someone else. Recognizing that they feel the same way you do and are looking at you to shine so they can see the breadcrumb trail you're leaving is what it's all about.

Now get to it!  Don't deny the world of you and your particular uniqueness.  We need you!

Want to learn more about how a few sessions with me can dramatically increase your confidence? Contact me  I guarantee you'll be glad you did!

Warmly,

Ann

Who are they…and why do you care?

Still waiting?

Tick tock...tick tock...

I was having a discussion the other day about "timing". How there's no right or perfect time and yet, this is continually used as a reason to delay, to not get started.

I see you. You have a pain point, something that's getting in your way, holding you back and you wish it was different. Could be a belief, an underlying fear,  a decision you've been "meaning to make", a lack of confidence...

It really doesn't matter what "it" is...

It's the curiosity around the waiting. The wondering...what if?

I'm deliberately referring to it as a "pain point" because waiting for things to get better or to take action can literally be painful.

Where did the idea that there's an ideal time come from? I don't know! That's why I'm asking you!  We talk about the right time as if it's really a thing. People will even use words like the time isn't right right now... based on what?

Delaying making the decision to just get started, and then realizing, regretfully, that time has passed and you could've been feeling so much better about the situation a long time ago. Can you relate?

Ask yourself.

• What's something I'm putting off right now?

• What's stopping me from taking one micro step towards the thing I want to be, have or do? And want is key here...

There's always an underlying want...typically disguised by "I don't want" statements. Start there. Start by thinking about what you want.
It's easier to get started when you're moving towards something you want rather than trying to avoid something you don't want. Seems subtle and yet it's very different.

You have to know what you want and then decide that you're ready to take some sort of unbelievably small step towards it.

Ask for help, sign up for the class, hit send on the email, phone a friend. Whatever it is...the little steps get you in motion. And once you're in motion, that's where the momentum to keep going begins...


Are you ready?

Let's get to it...

Your challenge...

Pick somewhere in your life where you're waiting for the "right time". A place where you're tired of waiting to feel confident enough to take that step. 

Ponder these questions:

What's holding me back? Probably the same things that hold just about everyone back:

• Not trusting yourself enough to believe that you can do "it", that thing you want to do.

  • Being a beginner and trusting that you CAN grow a new skill.

• Being afraid that someone will figure out that you don't know it all.

  • No one knows it all. NO ONE!

• Having a mindset that keeps you looking for the downside rather than the opportunities.

  • Ask yourself...what if this does work out?

All of this is b******* and it's the thing that keeps you from how close you are to being the most confident version of yourself. From waiting for the right time to taking a step. It really is a micro step.

There's no time like now to get started. Make the decision to act...start with the smallest action. Repeat. Because regret is real and action usually doesn't lead to regret.  

Want to learn more about how a few sessions with me can dramatically increase your confidence? Contact me  I guarantee you'll be glad you did!

Warmly,

Ann

Still waiting? Tick tock…tick tock…

Are you going through the motions?

Do you 'go through the motions' sometimes? Full disclosure here, I'm working on a big project...and the boots are to my glutes so to speak. The clock's ticking, so for me, right now, I’m doing what I need to do to keep the lights on…going through the motions...

I want to stay in connection with you, that's a priority for sure, and for this week? In order to be consistent and show up in your mailbox, I'm sending you this quick note so that I can focus on my bigger priority for the time being...it's a way to say hi, I'm here, thinking of you. 

I practice what I preach.

How about you?

Maybe your situation is different?  It could be a family situation that needs more of your focus, a health issue that needs some attention, or maybe you're going on that well deserved trip you've been planning. Regardless, something's pulling you away from all of the things that are calling for your attention.

It's okay to stop and gather your focus when you need to and go through the motions elsewhere. Going through the motions doesn't mean you don't give a s**t,  it means that you know where your attention is required, your priority, and you're going to do the minimum to keep all of the "other" things going. It could mean that your other non-negotiables are temporarily modified, you don't necessarily stop doing the other things, you do what you have to do to keep them afloat with the intention of going back to them when you have the capacity.

When you have a bunch of balls in the air and you're struggling to keep them from dropping, ask yourself:

• Which one or two can I put on the backburner temporarily?

  • Create a bookmark to go back and check in on these when you're ready to take them on  again.

You'll collect them later if they matter because quite frankly, sometimes when you drop a ball or two you actually realize they weren't even yours to start with.

Are you ready?

Let's get to it...

Your challenge...

Have you had to prioritize your world lately? Let's explore for a minute...

A funny thing can happen when you pull back and prioritize...you may discover that:

• The new level of attention you're giving other things is actually more appropriate.

  • Some of the things you've put aside really don't matter when you go back and revisit them.

• What else happens? 

  • You get perspective,  you're managing your priorities and perhaps you realize that some things only required you to go through motions. 

You can't be "on" everywhere, all of the time, it's just not possible.

Where in your life right now do you need to go through the motions and where do you need to double down and focus? It's okay. The whole thing is realizing that's where you're at and that's what you need to do right now. It's temporary.

Want to learn more about how a few sessions with me can dramatically increase your confidence? Contact me  I guarantee you'll be glad you did!

Warmly,

Ann

Are you going through the motions? That’s okay…

Strikes, spares and misses...

Strikes, spares and misses...what does bowling have to do with building confidence...or any other skill?

This past weekend my family went bowling. All six of us for the first time ever. To be clear, I am not a "bowler" at all, in fact, the last time I went bowling was BC...you know what I'm saying...

The thing is, I couldn't stop unseeing the parallels between bowling and confidence.

In my experience? It boiled down to intention.  Stay with me here...

My intention for the entire night? Connect with my people, have some fun and food...at least initially.  I could see by the way others got going that they had a clear intention of doing well.  How could I tell?  Their posture when they grabbed the ball,  the time they took before they released the ball, all of it and, not surprisingly, they tended to get more strikes, do better overall. Initially.

Perspective -

Strikes

• In bowling it's a win, in baseball? Not so much.

  • Know where you're 'playing' - sometimes it's not about knocking down all of the pins. It's actually about showing up and trying.

Spares

• A chance for "redemption" so to speak. To try again.

  • You can knock down all of the pins the second time around and while technically that's a "spare" a couple of us argued (okay, maybe just me) that it's still a strike. What do you think?

Misses

• In order to get better at anything you have to experience the misses, the gutter balls. When you don't get one single pin.

  • Humbling and yet definitely a part of growing ANY skill. The painful beginning. The starting point.

Remember intention?

I couldn't help but notice as the night progressed, I got a little more focused and did better on a few frames when I did.  I also noticed that as we all got tired the focus shifted from winning to going through the motions. In fact a couple of us declared we were done. 

I know we're talking about bowling here and yet the parallels are there. As intentions dwindled or changed so did performance and outcomes.

When you have focus and intention, you do better, regardless of your skill level. It's just true - no matter what you may be working on.



Are you ready?

Let's get to it...

Your challenge...


Maybe bowling isn't your jam and I'm thinking that the lessons you can learn are universal:

You can't skip to the end and be an expert.  It doesn't work that way.

Be Patient:

• With yourself. Being new at something requires patience.

Consistency:

• Show up. 

  • Think about it. If you bowl once a year, how much will your skills improve?

Persistence

• Showing up regularly. Practicing and preparing. Knowing your outcome. All of these contribute to improving your "game", whatever it is.

Intention:

• Know what you want to get out of each and every interaction. It matters. 

Start with the end in mind. Always.

Want to learn more about how a few sessions with me can dramatically increase your confidence? Contact me  I guarantee you'll be glad you did!

Warmly,
Ann

As a Confidence Coach, I help you to be intentional in all of your interactions. Especially those where there's no "do-over". 

Strikes, spares and misses…

It's not "out there"...you gotta look inside...

Hey! Quit looking out there. It's not out there... 

"It's" in you already. Whatever it is you think you're missing, you've probably got it tucked away somewhere waiting to be rediscovered.

Sounds cliche and it's true.

What I love about the work I do is helping people uncover what they already have. They and YOU are a gold mine and somewhere along the way they/you've lost your map. My work is to help you find all those things you lost track of. How did you lose track? You got busy doing life, keeping up with whatever it is that you thought you had to keep up with...neighbours, friends, colleagues. Always looking ahead or behind to see where you were, and suddenly...you lost track...of your focus, your clarity, your confidence, your...

When we're talking about confidence, in particular, you really do have all of the skills, strengths, and capabilities you need to reconnect with your confidence. Even if it's only a tiny spark, you can build on that.

The problem with looking somewhere else for it? Your particular version of confidence is unique to you. Yes, there are Hallmarks of confidence but really, only you can decide what confidence looks and feels like for you. Feels like is probably the most accurate and useful way to connect, because, unless you've had some sort of out-of-body experience, every single thing you've ever gone through in your life has happened in your body.  It's a storehouse of powerful information for you to tap into and use as building blocks for the next thing you want.

What do I mean?

When I reflect on a time when I was confident and allow a previous experience to come to mind, I can't help but notice the following physiological changes that occur in me: 

• There's a definite deepening of my breath.

• Some tension in my shoulders and neck.

• My voice gets slower and lower.

The situation that comes up may vary but the physical sensations are always the same.

What's the big deal?

Over time and through lots of practice, I am able to tap into those "feelings" on demand.  What this means is, that whenever I catch myself heading into a situation where I may not be feeling as confident as I would like, I'm able to:

• Stop.

• Deepen my breath.

• Slow and lower my voice.

And bingo...my brain thinks ah, we're doing confidence. Cool. 

Why does this matter?

It's a skill, so you too, can learn it!  I've worked with clients who are heads of organizations, VPs, directors, and new professionals to this country, from every walk of life, and this has worked for ALL of them and it will work for you too!  

Are you ready?

Let's get to it...

Your challenge...

Carve out some time this week to practice this exercise:

• Find a comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.

  • Settle in and take some deep breaths to relax. Scan through your body and notice any sensations, tingling, tension, etc. This is your baseline.

• Think of a time when you were confident.

  • The key here is to go for the low-hanging fruit...like you knew you could make a good cup of coffee this morning.

• Whatever comes to mind, trust it.

  • Your brain doesn't do random so get curious. Notice where you "feel" this confidence in your body. Notice any new sensations or where sensations may have disappeared. Pay attention to your breath and heartbeat.

• Sit with it.

  • Recognizing what your version of confidence feels like will take time...

• Practice.

  • Getting familiar with and tapping into your version of confidence takes time and practice...and it's time well spent...

If you don't have the time, or you can't get there on your own, reach out!  I'm really good at what I do.

As a Confidence Coach, I help you to be intentional in all of your interactions. Especially those where there's no "do-over". 

Want to learn more about how a few sessions with me can dramatically increase your confidence? Contact me  I guarantee you'll be glad you did!

Warmly,
Ann

It’s not “out there”…you gotta look inside…

Trust "the" process or trust "your" process...

Trust the process? I'm too impatient for that!

It's human nature to want to skip the rough parts and jump to the end and I'm no different than you. Wanting it to be easy.  I know it's a part of the process, my process, and maybe yours too.

Think about what makes for a good story...It's the dragon slaying that makes the cut, not when everything's going smoothly. We tend to share the challenges and how we overcame them. Is a story with no adventure or tension really a story? Yawn.

Last week's blog was the brutal truth about what was going on for me.  Maybe it didn't seem so brutal for you but for me? I felt like I was letting my audience down. Not delivering the value I "should" be delivering.  Who sets that standard anyway? Oh yeah...me.

Last week I had a blog about nothing because that's where I was at. I felt like I had hit some sort of dead end or roadblock. And I let the drama take over. "This is the end, I'll never have a creative idea again", and what I've learned is that when I put out there what's really going on it resonates. It resonates with you as another human being because you get those moments too I'm guessing.

So let's go there.  Let's see if you can relate.

What prevents me from putting myself out there? A few fears for sure...big surprise:

• Judgement.

  • What will they think if I don't have an idea to offer?

  • I'm supposed to be the expert so there are expectations I'm not meeting.

Let's be honest here, the judgement, the idea that I'm an expert and the expectations are all MINE! And you're no different.  We all walk around with this idea that everyone else is judging us and truthfully, most people are consumed with themselves.

Everyone feels these things from time to time. But it sucks when it's happening to you.

• I'm a fraud.

  • The fear that you're going to figure it out...that I don't know it all...and let's face it, I don't!

I live with contradiction. 

My contradiction? I know I'm really good at what I do. Truth.  Sometimes I doubt myself. Also truth. AND the two of them can exist together because as a human being no one, feels 100% on their game all of the time. 

How about you? What's your contradiction?

So what can you do?


Are you ready?

Let's get to it...

Your challenge...

What's your contradiction? Where are you rushing to skip the rough part to get to the end?

• Acknowledge.

  • Really noticing and acknowledging what's going on. You can't do anything without this step.

• Explore.

  • Ask yourself, what am I feeling about this? 

• Grace.

  • Take a break.  Allow things to come to you. Let something go if that feels right.

• Next best step.

  • Which can mean you do absolutely nothing. For me? Being honest and letting that be it. Sharing my truth with you.

Recognize it's often just a blip in the system. Trying harder doesn't work. Pausing often does. Getting your bearings and assessing.

It's about knowing the difference between trusting "the process" versus trusting "your process". My guess is that at this stage of the game, you know what works for you.  I know my process and I know it works for me...until it doesn't and that's when I take a pause and reassess. It's a practice.

How about you?  If you don't have a process that's working, reach out. Let's figure it out together. 

Want to learn more about how a few sessions with me can dramatically increase your confidence? Contact me  I guarantee you'll be glad you did!

Warmly,
Ann

Trust “the” process or trust “your” process…